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 The Power of Identifying Communication Strategies

One of my first guests at the new Ealing Ecademy club …in fact, the first person to arrive, was a young lady called Howaida and she is indeed a remarkable person with some very powerful communication strategies.

When someone asked her the question “Are you that open with people you don’t like?” she responded,

“I haven’t met anyone I didn’t like yet”….and then she tried to swallow her words by saying almost apologetically, “Maybe there’s something wrong with me!” and I had to respond by saying “Maybe there’s something right with you!  

Next time I meet Howaida, I am going to ask her what her perception of the world is; what her beliefs are about people in general; and what is her strategy in effective communication…..she is a remarkably lively, authentic and gracious human being and I have to admit I felt in awe of her when she described the beautiful “magical” events that led her from Brunei to England…..the signs of a creative mind with a strong “Merlin” inside her! 

I was raving about Hawaii as usual and she said “ I have never been to Hawaii but is it similar to Brighton?” I turned my nose up in disgust at the comparison and said “not quite!” and then felt a bit embarrassed when she went on to give the most poetic description I have ever heard about Brighton…for those of you not from the UK, Brighton is a seaside town on the south coast of England where we often take students for cheap day trips J But Howaida had a totally different perception of the place….she said “when I came out of Brighton station, the sun was shining and I felt the rays on my face and it felt like a tingling all over my body….and THAT’S how I felt for the whole 4 years I was at University there….a warm tingling feeling all over” and she demonstrated the effervescent sensation with her body language, like an Alka-Seltzer just dropped in a glass of water  

This is the lady who has never met anyone she doesn’t like! This is the lady who steps out of Brighton station and discovers the warm radiance of the sun giving her a warm tingling feeling that lasts 4 years!!…No wonder she is full of life! J (when most of us in the UK are saying “what sun?” “where’s the sun! Haven’t seen it for years!” 

Who do you know that encompasses the qualities you would like to nurture in yourself? Find out what their perception, beliefs and strategies are…..behaviour is just a reflection of our perceptions, beliefs and strategies….change your perceptions, beliefs and strategies and your behaviour changes automatically.

 If it’s been a very long time since you felt the sun streaming in through your windows, let me jog your memory…..

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